Hopefully Helpful | Jasmine Mayfair | Reviews

Sometimes, people don't fully understand the depth of your pain when you're gripped by the throes of a breakup.

What's even more infuriating is when you're offered unsolicited advices like, "He's not the only one out there" or "You'll get over it" or "That's ok, you'll be ok," blah, blah, blah, blah. Sure, there could be some shred of truth to that. But to a person in grief, reason and logic is thrown out the window.

On the other hand, you're not totally helpless either. Rekindle a broken relationship today. You don't have to lose a wonderful man without putting up a good fight. Don't just sit back and let it happen!

Girl Power Unite!

Get your friends or relatives together and talk it out. Tell them what you can share about what happened in the relationship. Though not all will be able to empathize with you, conveying your emotions will certainly lift a heavy load off your chest. Without a doubt, you'll get an earful of advice by night's end. When you're in a more rational state, sift through all their words of wisdom and take the good ones to heart.

He Said, She Said...

Get a man's point of view. Now that you have the women's opinions, even it out by talking with male friends. To rekindle a broken relationship involves understanding your partner's side. Guy friends will be able to offer honest and independent male point of view on what happened. It's so easy not to be objective about love matters when you're in the equation. See it through their eyes and be receptive, not defensive.

Think!

Take time for out for yourself and think. Evaluate everything you've heard. Reflect on your own actions and own up to your mistakes.

Talk...

Don't be coy; tell your man how you feel. Muster enough courage and tell him you want him back. Make him know that you're open to compromise and are determined to make this relationship stick. But don't try to rush or force him either. Take baby steps. Don't worry; you'll get there, eventually.

I know that it's never an easy task when it comes to getting your ex back by setting yourself small goals and getting a plan it is possible. Win your Ex back with a plan but don't rush it!

Hopefully Helpful By Jasmine Mayfair

Still fertile, or over the hill: getting pregnant over 40


Take the case of actress Nicole Kidman. Kidman was previously married to Tom Cruise, a union which lasted for 10 years but failed to produce children. And not for want of trying, either. She had an ectopic pregnancy and an early miscarriage when she was in her 20s and 30s. The thrilling news of Kidman’s pregnancy is an inspiring story for 40-something women contemplating pregnancy. But is getting pregnant over 40 really easy to do?

Kidman attributes her surprise pregnancy to swimming in the fertility waters of the Kununurra falls in Australia. Before hopeful mothers-to-be rush to these waters, here are some facts to consider before attempting getting pregnant over 40.

Pregnancy is a result of three crucial steps: ovulation, fertilization, and implantation. Ovulation is the release of viable egg in the middle of a menstrual cycle. Most women who experience monthly menses are presumed to ovulate midcycle, or approximately on the 14th day after the start of their period. In women with irregular monthly periods, the occurrence of ovulation is more difficult to predict.

Some women in their 40s may not be ovulating as regularly as women in their 20s and 30s. More and more cycles of these women would be anovulatory. This means that they do not produce an egg.

Indeed, decreased fertility and fecundability (or the probability of pregnancy in a given time) in women over 40s is mainly due to a decrease in their ovarian reserve. A decline in ovarian reserve results in less eggs being produced.

What can be done to improve ovulation? Although we cannot increase a person’s ovarian reserve, there are some drugs and herbs which can induce ovulation. If you want to try natural remedies, you might consider taking Ginkgo biloba, Siberian ginseng, and/or chastetree berry. These herbs are believed to improve blood circulation to the reproductive organs, including the ovaries. They also have antioxidant properties. Chastetree berry have the added benefit of being able to induce ovulation by optimizing hormone levels conducive to ovulation.

Fertilization, the next step, is the union of the egg and sperm. After ovulation, the egg is ready for fertilization for approximately 24 hours. This means that sexual intercourse must happen at around this time. Timing is very important. Couples are usually advised to have sex every other day during a woman’s fertile period. Luckily for women in their 40s, age does not decrease sexual fervor.

If you have been attempting pregnancy and is unsuccessful, you might have to be evaluated for tubal problems. Women in their 40s have a higher incidence of tubal diseases or conditions which hinder fertilization. These tubal conditions may be the result of chronic smoking and drinking of alcoholic and caffeinated beverages in their youth. Or it may be the result of diseases such as endometriosis, which worsen over time.

Lastly, a fertilized egg must successfully implant in the uterus. Luckily for us, uterine health does not significantly decline with age. Uterine pathologies such as polyps and fibroids do not significantly affect chances of a successful implantation.

It might not be that simple, but getting pregnant over 40 is possible. And holding that baby in your arms is worth all the effort.

Need To Get Your Ex To Return Your Call? Certain words out there that almost hypnotize your ex so they feel uneasy unless they return your call...

What to say to your ex to get them to call you...
Firstly,
Do have a get my ex back plan before you use this technique, on its own without an overall plan you may do serious damage to your relationship. (Much worst than them not returning the call!) the complete strategy is laid out in here

Ned your ex to return your call? Before we go into the "magic" words lets discus what NOT to say, as these types of approach will play mind games with you!

'The Plead Call'- Where the message sounds like
"Jane, I have to talk to you, can you please please call me, this is the 3rd time I've called."

And the 'Really Important Call'
"John This is really important please call as soon as you get this message

I hope you can see what's wrong with those methods. So, no need to go on then.

How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest To Your Advantage

Two of the most powerful forces to the human mind are
- Curiosity
- Self Interest

And here is WHAT WORKS
Combine the 2 and you have a recipe that WILL work 'Magic'
So lets look at what you can say that wins nearly EVERY TIME

In a friendly voice
"Hi John, Its Jane. I just wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. please call so I can thank you in person"

See how we use both curiosity and self interest in there?
John just HAS to ring Jane "what did I do?" & "What does she appreciate?" Is what will be on his mind AND he'll be feeling very good as it's such a positive message.
It Can be something very small , but it does need to be believable..

2ND WARNING!

Please make sure that you have your strategy ready as set out in 'The Magic of making up'
I must stress that if you use the call method without an overall strategy you can do more harm than good.

"Fail to prepare is to prepare to fail!"
What I mean is ... You must have a plan of action before, during and after you make the call. really It's just as important as getting them to call you back!
"Effort without results is meaningless." ... Don't hesitate get a plan if you Need Your Ex To Return Your Call

I Still Love My Ex, But They Don't Think About Me Anymore!

If your honestly thinking that "I still love my ex" just take 5 mins and think about a few scenarios.

Point being that if you do still love your ex, feelings for your ex, chances are that they do still love you too. but don't go running off just yet. You guy's went through a bad patch, so bad that it caused the split . Even if things weren't your fault that caused the breakup, time to consider what exactly went wrong can only be a good thing for the both of you.

It might be is that you both may have decided that to split-up was a good thing, and you now feel that feeling "I still love my Ex" even so, you both mutually decided to say "stop lets take a break" so do that and use the time to try to pinpoint when things took a turn for the worst. and start to look at the plan needed to fix things.

It may go like this: you have broken up and you yourself are doing fine. Then you find out that your ex is still talking about you and the word is they "want you back." Now you may then know or feel that you can get back together. what you should know is that. You'll get back it will be great again for a couple of months maybe then the reason that you split will again become apparent. Then what do you think will happen?

If the two of you are both thinking "I still love my ex" then you are at risk of making a mistake by jumping back together without properly analysing what went wrong.

How you stop the cracks from appearing that caused the split in the first place? If your still thinking that I love my ex, counselling is a good option. It will stop you from allowing the cracks from appearing next time.

4 Steps to take early on, that will Help You Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back.

Even if your further down the line these steps still do help, here is a quick list of 4 suggestions that you can start with straight away.

1)
Stop Spamming communication with your Ex... The words are a bit strong, But far too often messages have been left in haste, with almost instant regret, putting weeks on "getting back with an Ex". So please don't fall into that trap. Stop making phone calls or sending texts and emails to your Ex. It is not seen as you dont care any more - in fact quite the opposite.

2)
Too many days are spent sulking and thinking "what went wrong and how to get them back". Make sure you don't do that! Get out and see what's out there try to mix with people who aren't going to talk about recent split ups but give you fresh outlook, new and different things to think about.It does help in the healing ...When you start to feel positive about yourself again It's easily noticeable

3)
Have a day or 2 all about you... Maybe visit somewhere new, buy yourself a little something. Just a little self indulgence. You know what makes you feel great so just do it! Avoiding any hint of your Ex. Point is you NEED time to reflect and focus in yourself for a day or two. You Only stand a chance Getting Your Ex Back if your in a positive frame of mind

4)
Make an effort to understand, as best you can, "what went wrong". That way you can start to FIX IT!. But don't worry we do give you lots of help along the way (Just as T Dub said in the video). Use a couple of days to really Dig deep, It does help to start a small diary, (you may find great useful later on.) Put in it the biggest things that caused the change in the relationship and dont hold anything back.


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