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After your husband cheats, all you can think about is getting rid of the other woman. You want to completely banish her from his brain. Of course, she is constantly on your mind. Your every thought seems to center around this other woman.

If you don't know her or haven't seen her, it's even worse. Because then, the other woman is larger than life and something you can never hope to compete with. But, what if there was a way for you to make him forget all about her?

Sounds good doesn't it? Believe it or not, getting rid of the other woman has never been easier. Keep reading to find out what you need to do to make your cheating husband forget all about the woman he cheated on you with.

1. Become the better woman. Don't become just like the other woman. He's already had that. You want to go him one better. To do this, you need to sit down together and discuss what each of you wants and needs from the marriage. Once you know these things you can set about giving your husband the perfect wife (or the closest thing to it because there is no such thing as perfect in the real world we must all live in) he's been looking for. He can do the same for you.
2. Stop comparing yourself to the other woman. The odds are good that your husband isn't doing that so why on earth should you torture yourself that way? The two of you are never going to be able to move forward as a couple if there is always someone else - the other woman - sitting at the table with you. You'll never measure up in your mind. You'll never even need to try in his.
3. Let go of your anger. Do what you have to do to release the poison that anger can bring into your relationship. Go to church. Beat up on a punching bag. Eat a pint of Haagen-Dazs. You cannot save your marriage while you're holding on to anger at your husband for cheating on you. When you forgive your husband, he'll have no reason to hang on to the other woman.
4. Make your home your husband's shelter from the storm. Make your home his refuge. Make it the place he goes to escape the worries of the world and not a place where he discovers a whole new pile of worries.

Sometimes, people don't fully understand the depth of your pain when you're gripped by the throes of a breakup.

What's even more infuriating is when you're offered unsolicited advices like, "He's not the only one out there" or "You'll get over it" or "That's ok, you'll be ok," blah, blah, blah, blah. Sure, there could be some shred of truth to that. But to a person in grief, reason and logic is thrown out the window.

On the other hand, you're not totally helpless either. Rekindle a broken relationship today. You don't have to lose a wonderful man without putting up a good fight. Don't just sit back and let it happen!

Girl Power Unite!

Get your friends or relatives together and talk it out. Tell them what you can share about what happened in the relationship. Though not all will be able to empathize with you, conveying your emotions will certainly lift a heavy load off your chest. Without a doubt, you'll get an earful of advice by night's end. When you're in a more rational state, sift through all their words of wisdom and take the good ones to heart.

He Said, She Said...

Get a man's point of view. Now that you have the women's opinions, even it out by talking with male friends. To rekindle a broken relationship involves understanding your partner's side. Guy friends will be able to offer honest and independent male point of view on what happened. It's so easy not to be objective about love matters when you're in the equation. See it through their eyes and be receptive, not defensive.

Think!

Take time for out for yourself and think. Evaluate everything you've heard. Reflect on your own actions and own up to your mistakes.

Talk...

Don't be coy; tell your man how you feel. Muster enough courage and tell him you want him back. Make him know that you're open to compromise and are determined to make this relationship stick. But don't try to rush or force him either. Take baby steps. Don't worry; you'll get there, eventually.

I know that it's never an easy task when it comes to getting your ex back by setting yourself small goals and getting a plan it is possible. Win your Ex back with a plan but don't rush it!

Hopefully Helpful By Jasmine Mayfair

Need To Get Your Ex To Return Your Call? Certain words out there that almost hypnotize your ex so they feel uneasy unless they return your call...

What to say to your ex to get them to call you...
Firstly,
Do have a get my ex back plan before you use this technique, on its own without an overall plan you may do serious damage to your relationship. (Much worst than them not returning the call!) the complete strategy is laid out in here

Ned your ex to return your call? Before we go into the "magic" words lets discus what NOT to say, as these types of approach will play mind games with you!

'The Plead Call'- Where the message sounds like
"Jane, I have to talk to you, can you please please call me, this is the 3rd time I've called."

And the 'Really Important Call'
"John This is really important please call as soon as you get this message

I hope you can see what's wrong with those methods. So, no need to go on then.

How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest To Your Advantage

Two of the most powerful forces to the human mind are
- Curiosity
- Self Interest

And here is WHAT WORKS
Combine the 2 and you have a recipe that WILL work 'Magic'
So lets look at what you can say that wins nearly EVERY TIME

In a friendly voice
"Hi John, Its Jane. I just wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. please call so I can thank you in person"

See how we use both curiosity and self interest in there?
John just HAS to ring Jane "what did I do?" & "What does she appreciate?" Is what will be on his mind AND he'll be feeling very good as it's such a positive message.
It Can be something very small , but it does need to be believable..

2ND WARNING!

Please make sure that you have your strategy ready as set out in 'The Magic of making up'
I must stress that if you use the call method without an overall strategy you can do more harm than good.

"Fail to prepare is to prepare to fail!"
What I mean is ... You must have a plan of action before, during and after you make the call. really It's just as important as getting them to call you back!
"Effort without results is meaningless." ... Don't hesitate get a plan if you Need Your Ex To Return Your Call

I Still Love My Ex, But They Don't Think About Me Anymore!

If your honestly thinking that "I still love my ex" just take 5 mins and think about a few scenarios.

Point being that if you do still love your ex, feelings for your ex, chances are that they do still love you too. but don't go running off just yet. You guy's went through a bad patch, so bad that it caused the split . Even if things weren't your fault that caused the breakup, time to consider what exactly went wrong can only be a good thing for the both of you.

It might be is that you both may have decided that to split-up was a good thing, and you now feel that feeling "I still love my Ex" even so, you both mutually decided to say "stop lets take a break" so do that and use the time to try to pinpoint when things took a turn for the worst. and start to look at the plan needed to fix things.

It may go like this: you have broken up and you yourself are doing fine. Then you find out that your ex is still talking about you and the word is they "want you back." Now you may then know or feel that you can get back together. what you should know is that. You'll get back it will be great again for a couple of months maybe then the reason that you split will again become apparent. Then what do you think will happen?

If the two of you are both thinking "I still love my ex" then you are at risk of making a mistake by jumping back together without properly analysing what went wrong.

How you stop the cracks from appearing that caused the split in the first place? If your still thinking that I love my ex, counselling is a good option. It will stop you from allowing the cracks from appearing next time.

4 Steps to take early on, that will Help You Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back.

Even if your further down the line these steps still do help, here is a quick list of 4 suggestions that you can start with straight away.

1)
Stop Spamming communication with your Ex... The words are a bit strong, But far too often messages have been left in haste, with almost instant regret, putting weeks on "getting back with an Ex". So please don't fall into that trap. Stop making phone calls or sending texts and emails to your Ex. It is not seen as you dont care any more - in fact quite the opposite.

2)
Too many days are spent sulking and thinking "what went wrong and how to get them back". Make sure you don't do that! Get out and see what's out there try to mix with people who aren't going to talk about recent split ups but give you fresh outlook, new and different things to think about.It does help in the healing ...When you start to feel positive about yourself again It's easily noticeable

3)
Have a day or 2 all about you... Maybe visit somewhere new, buy yourself a little something. Just a little self indulgence. You know what makes you feel great so just do it! Avoiding any hint of your Ex. Point is you NEED time to reflect and focus in yourself for a day or two. You Only stand a chance Getting Your Ex Back if your in a positive frame of mind

4)
Make an effort to understand, as best you can, "what went wrong". That way you can start to FIX IT!. But don't worry we do give you lots of help along the way (Just as T Dub said in the video). Use a couple of days to really Dig deep, It does help to start a small diary, (you may find great useful later on.) Put in it the biggest things that caused the change in the relationship and dont hold anything back.


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